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Gordon Clay
An
advertising executive1965-2001, Gordon began grassroots
men's work around single fathering issues in 1976. In
1979, he established The Fathers' Network as a referral
for fathers who want to work with the issues, problems
and joys of parenting. In 1982, he created The National
Men's Resource Center, a reference of men's
organizations, research, books, publications, cultural
programs and films on men's issues with the goal to end
men's isolation and remained its Founder and Executive
Director until his retirement the end of 2015 when he
ended the non-profit.
In 1983, he was a
co-planner of the 2nd Women & Men
Together gathering in Santa Cruz, CA. In 1984, he
developed Tantrum Yoga® movement and breath work
system devoid of any violence such as pillow pounding. He
founded Heartworks to offer mind & body
consulting based on this concept. In 1985, he published
the first quarterly issue of Menstuff®, The
National Men's Resource and continued as publisher until
it became a website in August, 1996 (www.menstuff.org).
It is the largest web site in the world on men's issues
and ranks in the top 20% of the top million web sites.
Also, back in 1985, he created a workshop for women only
and men only titled Healing
the Father Wound®
and in 1986 created the first Rites-of-Passage for
Fathers & Teenage Daughters with his daughter,
Natalie.
He has also
presented numerous workshops on anger, single parenting,
fathers and daughters, and openhearted, non-sexual
intimacy. He was co-chair of the National Organization
for Men Against Sexism 1987-1989 and board president of
the California Men's Gathering Inc., 1993-94 as well as a
co-planner of the 8th, 15th and 25th gatherings. In 1991,
he created Everyman, which helps men bring other men in
their community together for a day of information and
process with the goal of building or strengthening the
local men's community. In 1994, he appeared in a powerful
video on diversity, The
Color of Fear,
which won the National Education Media Gold Apple Award
(and the remake Walking
Each Other Home).
That year, he also created the Browser's
Bookmobile
for which he was the curator/driver. It was a mobile
library with over 1,000 books on men's issues and was a
full-time RVer until December 31, 1999, traveling over
30,000 miles through 26 states and visiting rural
communities too small to support their own bookstore or
library. He has presented numerous times at not only the
National Organization for Men Against Sexism but also The
National Congress of Men. He has been the male panelist
in "GenderSpeak" a communications program produced by
Harper's Bazaar, presented for three years at the
Chico State University's "Men in the 90's" weeks, at
Senator Maddy's Annual Women's Conference in Fresno, CA,
the International Men's Conference, and was a
co-presenter with John James on two day-long conferences
on Men in Recovery in Oakland and Walnut Creek,
CA
Television and
radio appearances include Oprah, Real Personal on CNBC
and Hour Magazine, and he has appeared on numerous radio
and live Internet news programs and in magazine and
newspaper articles. Contact
us (See
Trainings as a participant.)
Vitae
- 2017-2024 -
Created the web site ZeroAttempts.org to shift the
national focus from ZeroSuicide, where 50,000 people die
annually, to focus in on the 1.7 million who actually
attempt suicide annually.
- 2012-2020 -
"First Friday Salon" is a free evening to see and talk
about documentaries that, most likely, wound never show
in the area.
- 2008:
Voices
radio show which aired on KURY-910am every other Thursday
at 6:30am, 8:30am, Noon, 4:30pm and 6:30pm.
- 2006-2013:
Through My Eyes Essay Contest - with local high school
seniors writing about the impact drugs or alcohol has had
on their lives. Local newspaper prints winning essays
weekly and published a booklet of all of the essays.
www.TheCitizensWhoCare.org/tme.html
- 2006-2024 -
Created a web site www.WomenInRacing.org
to encourage fathers to support their daughters in male
dominant sports and daugthers to do what THEY want
to do. We list over 1,900 women who have raced against
men plus a lot of information and resources on how to get
your daughter started.
- 2006-2024:
Created TheCitizensWhoCare.org
web site to address issues impacting Curry County,
Oregon.
- 2006-2008:
Created Men's Mini Health Fair in local
communitees.
- 2003-2005 -
On the development group to design a workshop for girls
10-13 called G.I.R.L.S.' Journey
- 2003-2015 -
Created and built The
Men's Study
housing 256 linear feet of books on men's issues. Moved
entire collection to Michigan State University's Changing
Men Collection in January, 2015.
- 2001-2024
- Created the Wildwood Himitage (vs. Hermitage),
North of Brookings, OR (www.wildwoodhimitage.com)
- 2000 - Took
an advance this year with no human contact to prepare for
the new millineun which started 010101. See my weekly
progress
report.
- 1994-2024:
Developed a web site on men's issues called
menstuff.org,
which has grown to become the largest web site on men's
issues. It lists thousands of on-site men's books,
resources and hyperlinks and hundreds of men's events,
periodicals and groups committed to a positive change in
male roles and relationships Connected to menstuff.org
were specific issue web sites: www.MensIssues.us,
www.PCAW.org, and www.WomenInRacing.org
(Released
ownership of the following websites: www.fatherstuff.org,
www.healthstuff.us, www.relationstuff.org,
www.LetsTalkAboutSex.org, www.MenAtRisk.org,
www.MenCare.org, www.ProstateCancerAwarenessWeek.org,
www.TesticularCancerAwarenessWeek.org,
www.TCAW.org.
- 1994-1999 -
Created Browser's Bookmobile 8/94, a mobile library of
1,000 books on 60 men's issues that traveled to rural
communities too small to support their own library or
bookstore. He drove the Bookmobile full-time over 30,000
miles through 26 states. The Bookmobile was retired from
active travel on 12.31.99. Over 6,000 men's issues books
were donated to Michigan State Univesity's Changing Men's
Collection in 2015.
- 1994 - Was
a cast member in the films The
Color of Fear
(1994). the remake Walking
Each Other Home
(1997) and Color of Fear - 3 (2005)
- 1992-2011 -
Developed and facilitated Clearing the Air™ Between
Women & Men
- 1991-2020 -
Everyman - Helps men bring other men in their community
together for a day of information and process with the
goal of building or strengthening the local men's
community.
- 1990 -
Created and produced the "Clear Energy" ritual audio tape
with the late Frank "Suru" Ekeh & Jim Berenholtz and
"Issues", a unique intuition tape
- 1988 -
Developed "Strengthening the Bonds", a process to build
pride and self-esteem vs. hazing in fraternity pledge
programs
- 1987:
1/1/87 Started MAS Medium & Company
(Marketing/Advertising/Sales Promotion)
- 1986: He
has also presented numerous workshops on Men & Anger,
Single Parenting, Fathers, and Couples workshops. He
created Wacky Window Wobbles to politicize car
windows.
- 1985-1996:
Published the first issue of Menstuff®,
The National Men's Resource a quarterly publication to
end men's isolation. It lists thousands of on-site men's
book reviews & covers, men's resources and hyperlinks
and hundreds of men's events, periodicals and groups
committed to a positive change in male roles and
relationships. It was converted to a website
(www.menstuff.org) in May 22, 1996.
- 1984-2011 -
Developed advances: Healing the Father Wound® for
Women Only and Men Only, West and East Coast, Father
& Teen-age Daughter Rite-Of-Passage with his daughter
Natalie on the West Coast and Midwest. The Male
Experience for Fathers & Teen-age Sons, Women &
Men: Being Our True Selves Together; Clearing the Air
Between Women and Men; Men Dealing with Our Anger, and
Healing the Mother Wound® for Women Only and Men Only
Developed Tantrum Yoga®, a movement and breath work
system for the safe and healthy expression of anger and
rage in a non-hitting, non-violent way. "What Do Men
Really Want" conference (1984-88). Associate speaker
1985. Member National Organization for Men Against
Sexism. Council member 1986-88. Council Co-Chair
1987-1989. San Francisco Advertising Club
Board
- 1983 -
Co-planner - 2nd "Women & Men Together" gathering in
Santa Cruz, CA
- 1982-2024 -
Created The National Men's Resource Center, a
not-for-profit educational resource (68.0337499) of men's
organizations, events, research, books, publications,
culture programs, films and more to end men's isolation.
Founding Board Member and executive director 10/7/94 to
12/31/15 and Curator/Driver of the Browser's Bookmobile
and managed several web sites including prostate cancer
awareness week, testicular cancer awareness week,
www.mencare.org (closed), www.menatrisk.org (closed), and
his latest venture is www.WomenInRacing.org
- 1982-1983 -
North Bay Ad Club - Founding President.
- 1982 -
Co-creator of the Road Show, a program designed to
present issue-oriented workshops in local communities.
- 1981 -
Started presenting workshops on: single parenting, anger,
homophobia, relationships, starting a men's group, men
& friendship, men & war, myths about women-myths
about men, expectations, intimacy, big boys don't cry
etc.
- 1981-94,
2005 - California Anti-Sexist Men's Political (CAMP)
Caucus. (1981-85) Co-Editor-Making Waves, and Direct
Action Task Groups. California Men's Gathering Inc.
(1981-1994), Board member 1994-93, President 1993,
Co-planner of the 8th, 15th and 25th
- 1976-2014 -
Began grassroots men's work around single fathering
issues and established The Fathers' Network as a referral
for fathers who want to work with the issues, problems
and joys of parenting. Moved to others in December,
2014.
- 1976 -
Entered California 9/15/75 to work for N.W. Ayer Pritikin
& Gibbons.
- 1973: 10.31.73
Divorced
Other:
Panelist: Men's Generational Solutions for Gender
Equality, 4/30/22. He was a panelist on the subject
of Preventing Suicide in Men: Community-Based
Guidance from Inter-Professional and Diverce Experts
at the 2021 Oregon Suicide Prevention Conference. He has
been the male panelist in "GenderSpeak" a communications
program produced by Harper's Bazaar, and
Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women. He presented for three
years at the Chico State University's "Men in the 90's"
weeks, at Senator Maddy's Annual Women's Conference, the
International Men's Conference in Austin, Health
& Wellness Fair, North Bend, OR 10/23/02
and was a co-presenter with John James on several
conferences in Oakland, and Walnut Creek CA on Men
in Recovery. Also, the Sacramento Conference on Self
Esteem, Willits Men's Gathering, Sacramento Govenors
Confrerence on Fathers, Headstart Conference, Sacramento,
Burning Man 1998-1999, 2001-2010 (DJ 1999 through
2006)
SPEAKER
1981-2024: Rotary: Crescent City, CA 3/24/16,
11/9/17; Brookings, OR 10/27/15; Gold Beach, OR;
Port Orford, OR. Ultimate Man Summit, North Coast
Educational Summit Humbolt
State University, Arcata, CA 2/03;
Mankind Project '99 conference in Indianapolis, 2005
conference in Milwaukee; Senator Maddy's 5th Fresno (CA)
Women's Conf; State of California's 14th Conf on
Self-Esteem; Harper's Bazaar "GenderSpeak" panel at
Today's Woman conf, Nordstrom & Neiman Marcus;
Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women panel; "Men in the
90's" Chico State University 3x; Men in Recovery with
John James 2x; Inter Men's Conf in Austin, TX 2x; Keynote
at 1st Men's Symposium, Walnut Creek, CA; "What Do Men
Really Want" conf; Mid-Coast Psychological Assoc &
Family Services of Santa Cruz and numerous presentations
at National Conferences on Men & Masculinity, the
California Men's Gatherings and the North Coast Men's
Gatherings.
MEDIA
APPEARANCES 1982-2024: TELEVISION:
Oprah Winfrey, Real Personal-CNBC-TV, Hour Magazine, Rick
at Night-San Luis Obispo, People Are Talking-KPIX-TV, AM
San Francisco and AM Weekend-KGO-TV, Express-KQED-TV,
Studio A-KTVU-TV, Do It, SacraMENshow, Metavisions-Viacom
Cable, Next Step-Channel 27, Palo Alto, CA (3/8/11)
RADIO: Gender Talk, Crescent City, CA;
KCIW Brookings, OR; Voices
Brookings, OR radio program which aired on KURY-910am
every other Thursday at 6:30am, 8:30am, noon, 4:30pm and
6:30pm. KHSU Arcata; Ashland Public Radio;
Appearances/guest host of Man-to-Man talk show-KCBS,
Let's Talk About It-KSOL, Open Mind-KNBR, Potpourri-KBLX,
In A Man's Shoes-Boston, Building Bridges, Lunch Box
& Changing Men-KPFA Berkeley & KFCF Fresno, CA
MAGAZINES: Brother, Changes, Focus, Man, Marin
Family News, Men's Health, New Republic, New Woman,
Quest, San Francisco Image. NEWSPAPERS: Curry
Coastal Pilot; Baltimore Sun, Christian Science Monitor,
Los Angeles Times, Marin Independent Journal, Oakland
Tribune, Pacific Sun, San Francisco Chronicle, Sober
Times, USA Today, Wingspan. BOOKS: Selection in
The Best Man. A chapter in
A Global Dialogue on Masculinity: 33 men
speak out. Wrote the Forward to Freedom
from Shame: Trauma, Forgiveness and Healing from
Sexual Abuse to be published, April, 2024.
MOVIES: "The Color of Fear" and the sequel
"Walking Each Other Home".
Workshops
as a participant
1981
Fathering: It Ain't What it Used to Be; Reevaluation
Counciling - Blumenthal*; 4th California Men's
Gathering
1982 6th
Conference on Men & Masculinity; Women & Men
Together - Santa Cruz;11/19-21 Real Men, Real Women -
Quiche 2.
1983
California Anti-Sexist Men's Political (CAMP) Caucus; 5/3
Petaluma Mens Night Out; 6/11-12 Quiche Raft Trip (24);
11/26 Extended Family - Asara; How to Deal with an Angry
Woman - George Simon; Women & Men Together -
Santa Cruz
1984 3/2-4
Who Are You, Oriental Massage training - Graduate
December; Magic of the Elements; 5/11-13 Sex, Love
& Intimacy Level I; 7/24-29 Love
& Intimacy Level 3; 9/14-16 Love
& Intimacy Level 2; 10/12-14 Love
& Intimacy Level 4; October Who Are
You;
1985
Continued massage training; 2/2-3 Open Life; June
Mendocino Men's Gathering; 8/9-11 Love
& Intimacy Level 4;
1986:1/26
2nd Level Massage graduation; Gay Luce's year-long Nine
Gates Mystery School; 1986 Men of Marin; 1/18 or 5/10
Re-Sourcing - Carolyn Anderson/Jeff Daly; 5/86 Mendocino
Bly; 5/30-6/1 Love & Intimacy Level 4; 6/6-8 Man
& His Spirit - Bliss; November, Palenque, Mexico. Dr
Z;
1987
Shamanic or sooner - Harner - CIIS, Esalen, Boston,
Soho-NYC; 2/6-8 Dance of the Deer - Brant Secunda; 12/87
Domain Shift;
1988:
2/19-21 Warriors of the Heart; 4/22-24 Masque making as
Medicine Way-Suki Jay/Tom Pinkson; 12/2-4 Sex, Love
& Intimacy Level 5;
1989
1990:
6/22-24 - New Warrior Training Adventure - Chicago;
September - Spiritual Warrior - Chicago; John Gray; Next
Step Women & Men - Durango; Shaman`s Circle -
Austin; Mendocino Bly Leader`s Conference;
1991
1992: 1/12 -
Bali; New Warrior Integration Group through
8/94
1993: 2/21
- Ovarios y Cojones - Clarissa Pinkola Estes
& Michael Meade; 4/93 - David Crump's Essential
Experience; June - Reunion - Shaman`s Circle - Mendocino;
New Warrior Integration Group, PSI World (93/94?); 12/18
- Canada and Cancun Mexico;
1994: Mother
Shadow - Joya Jennings; Heart of Courage - model mugging;
Mendocino Gathering for Women & Men; 8/20 - Back
to US - from Canada; September - 1st Gender
Reconciliation Conference, Arlington, VA; New Warrior
Integration Group. Participant in the diversity movies
"The Color of Fear", "Walking Each Other Home" and "The
Color of Fear 3" concerning homophobia.
1995:
Tantric Training - Maryse Cote; 1/7 - My Family, Myself,
San Francisco, CA; 1/20-22 - The Mind of Love - Christina
& Michael Naumer, Novato, CA; 1/28-29 - The Mythos:
W&M, Michael Meade, Headlands, CA; 3/12 - Asemblage
Point Shift, Alive Tribe - Calistoga, CA; 4/30-5/1 -
Healing Intimate Trauma, Harbin, Middletown, CA; 8/27-9/1
- Village of Reconciliation, Michael Meade/Edie Turner,
Mendocino, CA; 10/13; Canada;
1996: Healing
the Mother Wound - Carolyn Baker; July - Men &
Masculinity Conference, Lewis & Clark College,
Portland; MiVoden, Hadden Lake, ID - Phyllis's Training
with John Shiere; 11/8; Equador & Peru;
1997:
Healing the Mother Wound, Lourdes Billingsley; February;
Head Start, Sacramento; 9/27-10/10; Greece &
NYC;
1998: Life
Mastery, Louis Stoltz, Escondido; W&M, Charlie
Kriener, Pacific Grove (or 1999?); December - Amanae
5-day training; First Burning Man
1999: 4/8-11
& 15-18 - Motherwave Lv 1; Tantric Meditation with
Baba Ji at Mount Modanna; 4/22-25 - Healing the Mother
Wound, Shauna Wilson; 5/27-30 - Motherwave Lv 2; 7/8-11 -
24th Men & Masculinity Conference, Pasadena; 7/16-22
- Motherwave Lv 3; 7/23-25 - Present "Walking Each Other
Home", New Warrior/Woman Within, Indianapolis, IN; Dan
Millman-Mt Madonna, CA; Warrior Monk, Glen Ivy,
CA: Father Wound workshop, the Hermit card was left
behind by the previous group. DJ at Burning
Man
2000: Gordon
took a sabbatical (an advance, not a retreat) without
human contact the first nine months of 2000
to prepare for the new millennium. Everything seemed to
point in another direction than the one I was going in.
What was strange was there were no sign posts telling me
where I was going or what or who I was to become.
Concluded in September to staff the first MKP Inside
Circle in Folsom Prison
2001:
Healing the Mother Wound, Shauna Wilson; Staffed second
Inside Circle - Folsom Prison. DJ at Burning Man. Staffed
the 2nd one as well
2002:
2/16-17 - Woman's Love, Man's Freedom: Two Sexual
Paths, One Spiritual Bliss; David Dieda's program,
Ashland, OR; 3/1-3 - The Celebration of the Noble Man,
Staffed The Power of Love; Vision Quest, Alburquerce, NM;
Conscious Connection, Marin.11/7, Informed that I have a
Health Opportunity - I had been diagnosed with prostate
cancer; DJ at Burning Man
2003:
1/12-2/2 - Optimum Health Institute, Lemon Grove, CA;
2/7-9 - Presented "Walking Each Other Home" movie on
diversity at the North Coast Educational Conference,
Arcadia, CA and at the North Coast Men's Gathering
5/30-6/1. Thailand (family wedding). DJ at Burning
Man
2004:
January - Optimum Health Institute, Lemon Grove, CA;
Conscious Connection - Seattle; I Wish I Knew
Now What I Knew Then - North Coast Men's Gathering;
Somatic Training - Seattle; North Coast Ritual Village
with Shauna Wilson. DJ at Burning Man in Deep
Heaven
2005:
3/1-20/05 - Optimum Health Institute, Lemon Grove, CA;
HAI Couples Workshop; AMP; HAI Level 1,
Intensive with Oscar Miro-Quesada/Phyllis Clay,
California Men's Gathering, North Coast Men's Gathering,
Nevada City Men's Gathering; DJ at Burning Man in Deep
Heaven; 2/1-28 - Thailand, Laos, Cambodia ;
2006: John
Hunter's workshop on Sexuality; Nevada City Men's
Gathering; NWTA-Norcal; DJ at Burning Man in Deep
Heaven
2007: Men's
Mini-Health Fair - Brookings, OR; Ron Hering Mission of
Service Award, Glen Ivy; Burning Man
2008: Men's
Mini-Health Fair - Brookings, OR; MKP World Elder
Gathering, Portland, OR. Re-opened the Eastcoast to do
Healing the Father Wound® and Clearing the Air™
Between Women & Men; An evening for men, An evening
for women - Fairfax, VA; Burning Man.
2009: 1st
New Warrior Training Adventure - Initiated Man - Chicago;
Northcoast Men's Gathering; Burning Man
2010:
NWTA-HI; Burning Man
2011:
Ultimate Man Summit - webnar participant
2012: The
Bridge, Nevada City
2013: A Hero's
Challenge: Being an Extrodinary Man
2017:
1/13-17 - NWTA - SFO
2022: Desert
Wisdom, Pescott, AZ
20??: Bay
Area
Behavioral Health
Trainings
Mental Health First Aid -
Gold Beach
Youth Mental Health First Aid - Gold Beach
ACE - Grants Pass
ACE - Gold Beach
ASIST - SWOCC
5/26/17 - 8:30a-12:30p C-SSRS - Providence Portland
Cancer Center Auditorium
9/27/18 - 7-9a CLAS Training, Dr. Cliff Coleman,
Curry General Hospital
2019 - Suicide: Prevention, Intervention
& Postvention, Crescent City
- Staffings:
Additional
workshops Taken
Sex, Love
& Intimacy - 6 levels
Tom Pinkson -
W&M at Harbin
Men's Retreat at
Monterey - in the condo and the Santa Cruz theatre with
Fred Jealous?
Women
& Men Together - Santa Cruz - two
years
Charlie Kriener:
Camp Swig; W&M with Shauna Wilson
Stan and Christina
Grof - Holotropic Breath Work
Steven
Kessler
Gabrielle Roth -
Westerbeke Ranch
Justine Sterling -
Men, Sex and Power - Oakland
John Gray - Men are
from Mars, Women are from Venius
Gay
Hendricks
Sam Osherson
on Fathering - Esalen
Fathers
& Daughters - Larry Lima, Esalen
Daniel Ellenberg -
San Francisco intimacy plus Men's weekend at
Harbin
Shadow Work -
Harbin, Troy Rampy
Mother Shadow -
Joya Jennings
Healing the Mother
Wound ® - Carolyn Baker, Lourdes Billingsley, Shauna
Wilson Mora twice
Robert Bly -
Mendocino Gatherings (3 or 4 years)
Michael Meade for
Women & Men on his own - Headlands
Michael
Meade/Angeles Arian - Mills College
Michael
Meade/Clarisa Pincola Estes - Palace of Fine
Arts
John/Mary - Women
& Men - Esalen
Janet Hurley -
Inner Abused Child work, in Aptos, Carmel
Valley
Various Domain
Shift workshops: Domain Shift (12/87), Assemblage
Points (3/12/95), Life Stages, Life Stages
& Addictions, Bring Your Body Along,
Unraveling
Panel for
Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women, Los Angeles
Sweat Lodges with
Wallace Black Elk, Charlie Tom, Eagle Man,
Lorendra.
Vision Quest with
Phyllis Clay in Arizona
Peruvian medicine
man with Phyllis Clay
The
Year 2000
The year 2000 had
much significance for me as it was a year of milestones.
I turned 60 in March, the year of the dragon and I was
born in the year of the dragon. I had been doing men's
work for 25 years, had been doing Healing the Father
Wound® workshops for 15 years (45 weekends for women
only, 27 for men only, and 8 years of women and men via
Clearing the Air™), and spent 5½ years on the
road in the Browsers' Bookmobile, the last 4 ½ of
those years being full-time on the road.
I had done much
personal work, over the years, and had learned much from
others. As some of you know, I was doing what I had asked
you to do. Take the year 2000 to eliminate the things I
don't like about myself, to replace them with new
patterns, belief systems, and ways of being that really
suit who I am at my core, so that I can start the new
millennium, which really beings 01.01.01,
as that person.
My way of doing
this was to do up to a one-year advance, not retreat,
free from outside influences, and see what really works
for me. This meant no workshops, no income producing
work, no traveling, no television, radio, newspapers, or
magazines, no direct human contact of any kind for up to
a year. My intention was to see what the future might
have in store for me and if it included a return to
facilitating the workshops. Gordon Clay
See Potato
Chronicles, a
reflection on that work.
- Corporate
Work:
Kansas City Star
Chicago Office (65-66), Leo Burnett, Chicago (66-72),
Bryan/Donald Advertising, Kansas City, MO (72-76); N. W.
Ayer/Pritikin
& Gibbons
San Francisco, (76-81); Foote, Cone
& Belding-Impact San Francisco (82-83), Straw
Hat/Saga Foods Dublin, CA (84-85); Tracy Locke, San
Francisco. (85-86). Started MAS Medium 1/1/87. Clients
included Diet Centers of the Bay Area, Del Monte Foods,
and the California Milk Advisory Board. Retired at the
end of 2001.
* * *
It is said to begin
with the father. - Mazine Kumin
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